Even the most self-assured and positive people can have days where they feel emotionally defeated and out of control. Being self-empowered isn’t a magic state of being that is achieved and never goes away. It’s an approach to life that needs constant work, assessment, and care.
There will be days when you do not feel empowered. On those days it is important to take extra care of yourself. These are the days when you need a little extra support and attention. So let’s talk about what you can do when you’re not feeling in control over your life.
1. Pay Attention to Your Thoughts and Words
There’s a very good chance that some negative self-talk has crept into your thoughts. Spend some quiet time being aware of your thoughts and actions. How have you stopped treating yourself well? What caused that change? Awareness is the first step to regaining your sense of wellbeing and empowerment.
2. Forgive and Move Forward
If you’re feeling out of control or a loss of empowerment, it may be because you’ve made a mistake or you feel like someone has harmed you. It’s often best to forgive yourself for the error, or to forgive them, and to move forward. Use it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and apply that information to your future decisions and behaviors.
3. Treat Yourself Well
Forgiveness is part of treating yourself well. Depending on what has caused your recent situation, you might also give yourself a little extra room and time to regain balance. For example, if you are feeling bad about your physical empowerment because you cheated on your diet, then forgive yourself and treat yourself to a healthy and positive meal that nourishes your body and your spirit.
If you made a mistake at work, you might forgive yourself and then treat yourself well by enjoying a hot bath or a run or something that brings you joy.
4. Take Positive Action
Finally, there’s nothing that helps you regain your sense of empowerment like taking positive action. When you’re having a difficult day, week, or month, then identify what you can do to make it better and take action.
Even in the worst situations that life can throw at you, you always have a say in how you respond, react, and feel. You get to control the thoughts you have, the actions you take, and how you respond to the world around you. Self-empowerment means not forgetting that you are in charge of your life. Sometimes that can be easy to forget. When it happens, become aware, treat yourself well, and take positive action to turn it around.
You are empowered more than you know. Being self-empowered means that you have made the conscious choice to control your life – all areas of your life. Instead of being the victim of others, of circumstance, and even of your own negative or limiting thinking, you’ve decided to take life by the reins, make your own decisions and set your own goals.
Now that you’ve made that decision, it’s time to focus on where you want to change your life. What goals do you want to set? And most importantly, what is the first goal you’re going to tackle?
There are a number of areas where you may want to take control of your life. You may have lifestyle goals like meditating, exercising, eating healthier or thinking more positively. You may have career goals like going back to school, getting a promotion, or starting your own company. You may have personal goals like finding a partner or spouse, improving your finances, or buying a home.
Most often, the key to success with any goal is to focus and take small and manageable steps. For example, if you want to start a business then you’ll ideally make a list of the steps required to achieve that goal. Each step can then be a smaller and more attainable goal.
Once you’re on the path to achieving one goal and have taken some significant steps toward success, you can add another goal to your plan. Most people have more than one goal, but trying to focus on them both at the same time can be overwhelming.
So, which goal will you focus on first?
Consider the following questions and ideas:
- What goal will have the biggest impact on your life? Sometimes one goal on your list will make the biggest definer for you. That can be the best place to start.
- What goal is the easiest to achieve? Another option is to focus on the simplest and easiest goal. Create a pattern of success by starting with goals that you know you can achieve. It’ll help make empowerment part of your life.
- What goal feels necessary to move forward? There may be a goal on your list that just logically comes first. For example, maybe you want to start a business as a personal trainer but you can’t begin that process until you become certified. Logically, certification must come first.
- What do you want to do first? All things aside, what goal on your list gives you the biggest smile or sense of inspiration? What goal do you want to focus on first? Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions about your goals. They’re powerful signs that you’re on the best path.
Choosing the self-empowerment goal that you focus on first may feel overwhelming. Enjoy the process of becoming empowered and taking control over every aspect of your life.