Do you remember that question when you were little?
What Do You Wanna Be When You Grow-Up?
When I was little, we had a book that said…”When I grow up what will I be? I close my eyes and count to three…1…2…3″
The choices in the book seem silly to me now, a secretary, a stewardess, or a nurse. Those were the only options for young ladies back then.
Every year thousands of kids are asked what they want to be when they grow up. Many don’t know. Even worse, many adults are still struggling to figure out what they want from life. Like many, they fall into the trap of doing what’s expected of them. They end up bored, unsatisfied and make poor decisions based on the life they are living now. They never follow the dreams they had as a kid; instead they wander aimlessly without any goals or direction.
That’s pretty scary.
If you don’t know what you want in life, isn’t it time you figured it out? People who know what they want function better in society, know where they are headed, are happier, and make better decisions in life.
7 Ways to Start Designing Your Lifestyle
1. Be selfish with your time
If you are constantly saying yes to other people for your time and commitments, you can’t figure out what you want to be doing. Put yourself at the top of your list. Ask yourself what you would be doing right now if you had no family, friend or job obligations.
2. No Regrets
Don’t regret things you did or didn’t do in the past, or saying no to others. It’s your life and you should live it the way you want that makes you happy. Constantly regretting things from your past stops you from going forward.
3. Re-examine Your Priorities
Sit down and really think about what you need the most in your life. Is it family and love? The freedom of creative expression? Financial security or serving others? List your priorities. Think about the legacy you want to leave when you exit this world.
4. What Makes You Happy
Figure out what makes you really happy. Is it being around kids or helping the elderly? Maybe it’s traveling or owning a successful business. Determine what the one thing is that makes you the happiest. Then you’ll have a pretty good idea of where you want to be in life.
5. What Makes You UnHappy
Be specific. If you don’t like your office job, figure out what exactly you hate about it. Is it your workload? Or your freeloading co-worker? Or maybe it’s being inside when you’d really rather be out of doors all day long. Can you fix it? Or make changes somehow?
6. Stay positive
It may take time to truly determine what you want to do. You’re likely to have some detours along the way and make some decisions that will affect how you continue. Keep a positive attitude to help you keep going.
7. Question Your Limits
Are some of your thoughts limiting beliefs? Things like “I’m not smart enough to do that” or “artists have to starve before hitting it big” are thoughts that limit you taking action and exploring whether this is something you might be interested in doing.
Not knowing what you want to do or get out of life can be depressing and scary. We all have a purpose but many don’t know what it is yet. Not knowing where you’re going can lead you to make poor choices along the way as well.
I have a tendency to start multiple projects at the same time. Running multiple profit centers is a lot like spinning the plates show at Epcot’s China.
When I worked as a department head at a local college, I had several people that I could assign tasks to or at least ask their opinion or a quick question if I got stuck. As an entrepreneur, I find myself wishing my chihuahua, Mikey Love would offer more help or at least some input.
“What do you think of this buddy?”
No response or a simple head tilt.
Begin thinking of yourself as a “multi-prenuer” who is building multiple streams of income. Each of these streams is like the plates shown in the video, you get one spinning and you start another one. One plate may be your full-time position, another plate may be real estate, and another plate might be a book that you have written. You want some plates that can spin without you having to do too much.
As a web designer, one must juggle multiple tasks but there are lulls when you are waiting for the next phase. During these times, I can start on another client’s project or one of my own pet projects.
Something that I have started doing to help me keep track of where I stand on a project is to use a simple folder with a checklist of items to be accomplished. Where I have stopping points, I can take a red pen or pink highlighter and draw a line across. These are places where I am waiting for content or feedback from a client.
I am very green and hate to waste paper so I keep a lot of notes on Evernote but I like having these folders because it’s also where I keep hard copy of the client agreement. Sometimes I need the paper folder to keep me on track.
What does lifestyle design mean?
Many think that the idea of Lifestyle Design began with Tim Ferris in his book the 4 Hour Workweek
defined it as…
“The New Rich (NR) are those who abandon the deferred-life plan and create luxury
lifestyles in the present using the currency of the New Rich: time and mobility.
This is an art and a science we will refer to as Lifestyle Design (LD)”
I loved Tim’s book and that he popularized this idea.
Richard N. Bolles wrote a neat little book full of cartoons that I loved back in the 80’s called the 3 Boxes of Life
. Those 3 boxes were education, work, retirement. He discussed how to break the cultural norms of society and have a blend of learning, working and playing. Mr. Bolles questions if there is any meaning in compartmentalizing our lives into these boxes. He taught me at a young age the need for balance and meaning. (You can find it on Amazon for 1 cent) at the time of this writing.
Dr. Wayne Dyer talks about a quantum moment in his movie the shift. A time in our lives when the goals we were chasing that were so important suddenly don’t mean what did before or when he went from being a full-time college professor to an author stating “this is my new work.”
But it goes way back to the 1900’s when Henry David Through went to Walden Pond
to live deliberately and to suck the marrow of out of life here he wrote one of my all-time favorite quotes, “If one advances confidently to live the life which he or she has imagined, they will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
Many will say that lifestyle design is the same as passive income. While passive income helps one design their life it’s but one facet of the diamond.
Lifestyle Design Definition:
- Designing your lifestyle is for the moms and dads who want to be with their kids more and work from home.
- Designing your lifestyle is for the folks who want to travel and share their adventures with the world plus pay for their travels.
- Designing your lifestyle is for artists of all ages who want sell their artwork and/or teach how they create it.
- Designing your lifestyle is for teachers who want to be free of the day to day politics but still want to teach.
- Designing your lifestyle is for authors who know they have a book within them.
Perhaps your lifestyle diamond is still rough.
Over the last few years, I have been designing my life. Cutting away the parts that made me unhappy and polishing the parts of my life which make me happy.
You can do the same. In this website, we’ll begin adding more play time in with work time while continuing to learn new things that can help you with work and play.