Welcome to the first episode of 2020 of Design Your Lifestyle Podcast. In this episode, Kimberly discusses the DESIGNER steps to Lifestyle Design. This is a frame work for future episodes because these steps will be used again to go further along the lifestyle designer’s journey.Subscribe to the show for lots more to come!
Why I am Relaunching the Podcast
Why am I real launching my podcast when I realized what experience does podcast feed and happens to lotta podcast or’s that goes into creating a podcast and I simply was not ready so what’s new with me in the last year 2019 I wrote and self published a book on Amazon called design your life and business Amazon and it still doing really well I would love for you to check it out – KimberlyLoves.me/book
My book is called Design Your Life & Business and its all about Lifestyle Design.
You might be wondering what does lifestyle design mean exactly. In my book, I define Lifestyle Design as “creating a deliberate and purposeful plan that promotes a desirable life.”
Lifestyle Design means different things to different people. I can tell you what it has meant to me:
Meant being able to fly to Arizona and help my sister, who was having a difficult pregnancy stay for a month without losing my job.
Means being able to travel and be there for my family, my grandfather, who recently passed and my beautiful granddaughter who lives in another state.
Meant picking up my kids at school instead of them staying at aftercare or with a nanny.
Means having a home cooked dinner with my family every night instead of sitting in I-4 traffic.
Meant volunteering with my teenage daughter at Give Kids the World and modeling how to be of service to those in need.
Means I can work at in my home office, at Starbucks, or at the beach .
How is Lifestyle Design Good for the World?
Lifestyle Design is better for the environment because if everyone were designing their life, we would have less traffic, less waste, and more time freedom.
You may think that lifestyle design is a new concept invented by young people like Tim Ferris author of the book the 4 hour workweek.
It’s a strategy that works for the young and the young at heart.
But it is a concept that goes back to people like Henry David Thoreau, who said, “if one advances confidently to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
Lifestyle Design is not a get rich quick scheme. It’s not always easy.
How do we design our lifestyle?
I use the word DESIGNER as an acronym for the steps to designing your life & business. These steps are used towards creating a lifestyle business that you can run from anywhere in the world.
D = Dream & Decide
E = Engage & Empathize
S = Study & Survey
I = Invest & Ideate
G = Grow with Gratitude
N = Nurture Yourself & Your Clients
ER = Evaluate & Refine
On this Podcast, we want to hear from you. How you are designing your life? We want to hear your story. To share your story,
So it starts with a dream. It starts with dreaming up lots of ideas too many big lofty ideas, maybe you’re like me and you get lots of great ideas and you trouble deciding on the right idea.
I will walk you through how to figure our your best idea and launch a lifestyle business.
Dreaming and the deciding is the first step to lifestyle design.
Lifestyle Design Strategy: Get In Touch With The Freedom To Live!
Are you ready to design your life on your own terms? Getting in touch with your freedom to live can help you imagine a future you never dreamed as well as well increase your motivation for following your passions in life.
Before beginning the life design process, it’s a good idea to get in touch with your true freedom, as it can open possibilities that help you create the life you’ve always wanted.
As evolving, changing creatures, our lives are not meant to be bound or constrained. You are free to be whomever you imagine for yourself, and no one should limit your freedom to choose what you do in life. You have nothing but freedom to build the life you can love, and the only thing stopping you is yourself.
Getting in Touch with Your Own Sense of Freedom
Here are a few strategies to help you tap into your sense of freedom, which can unlock your creativity and help you find fulfillment in life.
1. Create Unscheduled Time
I like to leave some empty spaces in my calendar this allows me to explore my interests and do spontaneous things. Give yourself a morning or evening to do either absolutely nothing or whatever comes to mind that day, but don’t place any expectations on these hours other than they are yours. Remember to use it for yourself, not to catch up on other things or finish your to-do list. To learn to enjoy freedom, you have to have the space for it.
2. Find a Place Where You Can Feel Small
Get outside to enjoy nature, which can help you realize the immensity of the world. Think long walks in the woods, being outside among rolling hills, or sitting at the edge of the ocean. Find somewhere in your area where you can experience the sheer power of nature, the immensity of scale that comes with the living, breathing planet.
This can not only help you relax and breathe a little deeper but also helps put yourself into perspective with the rest of this giant rock we call home. This can bring you healing and power to enjoy the freedom you have in life.
Another option to this is to go to a place that makes you feel like a child again, for me this is going to Disney or a children’s movie. Recently, we went to see Mary Poppins at the theater. I felt like a little kid sitting in the theater and transformed to whimsical thoughts.
3. Lifestyle Design Means Getting in Touch with Yourself
Spend time regularly doing things that are just for you. Connecting with yourself, paying attention to your needs, and spending time alone with your thoughts are all excellent ways to tap into your passions and reflect on where you want your life to take you.
Spending quality time with yourself, without having to answer to others about how you are spending your hours, is an essential part of realizing what aspects of life are limiting you and how you can free yourself from those constraints.
4. Break Away From Those Who Try to Control You
If there are people in your life who are trying to push you in specific directions, even when your heart is resisting, it is time to let them go. While support is important when designing your life, it is equally essential that those in your life are there to listen and provide love, not to force you where you don’t want to be.
If you have controlling people in your life, you need to be strong and break ties, which will give you the freedom to be true to yourself.
5. Expect the Best Outcome
Set yourself up for success by expecting the best result. Too often we think that only the mediocre or lackluster is what we deserve. That encourages you to accept “good enough.” Demand the best.
6. Create Your Own Cheering Section
Surround yourself with successful people and let them know about your goals. Look for “Creative Champions” as Julia Cameron would call them. These people understand the importance of goals and will congratulate you as you work through obstacles to achieve them. Distance yourself from “Poisonous Playmates,” people who constantly throw a wet-blanket over your ideas and goals. These two terms come from Julia Cameron’s book the Vein of Gold.
7. See Yourself as Successful
Identify your unique qualities and recognize that these are the tools that lead you to success. Don’t dwell on weaknesses, just find someone who has those strengths and put them on your team.
You Are the Master of Your Own Life
If you feel like your life is dictating your choices, then you need to adjust. You can either change your attitude to accept this reality, or you can change your life to make it what you want.
Only you can know what makes you feel free, and only you can make a choice to change your life. Gain clarity about what freedom really means for yourself, then you can design a life that helps you achieve that sense of freedom.
Are you wondering why you should design your lifestyle?
I had the most amazing walk today. I saw two alligators and a scarlet tanager apparently they migrate through Florida in October. I learned this from a bird watcher. Who was happy to share his lovely discovery with me.
Why do I share this with you? This is part of how I have designed my lifestyle. I have designed my life to include a morning walk. Sure there are other ways to get exercise but my favorite is getting outside and enjoying nature. I get my best ideas while walking. What’s your favorite way to exercise?
I am naturally an introvert but many times, I force myself to be more introverted for various reasons. Taking a morning walk helps me wake up and lets me gradually greet people as I do. Like striking up conversation with the bird watcher.
Why Should You Design Your Lifestyle?
Time Magazine reports findings from the Harris Poll, which has conducted happiness surveys for many years, and of the 2202 Americans surveyed in 2017, only 33% said they were happy, in 2016 that number was only 31%.
“Distraction and a lack of control may be part of the reason why only about a third of Americans say they are happy,” says John Gerzema, CEO of the Harris Polls.
Choosing to shape your own life, to design your lifestyle the way you want to live, provides you with the power and capacity to achieve your dreams. Deliberately designing and planning your best life means you can carefully choose among the best possible options, you can achieve your dreams, and you have control over what happens to you and what you do in life.
“Arrange whatever pieces come your way.” Virginia Woolf
Your Greatest Life Cannot Happen by Accident.
Shaping your life is a process that follows many principles, but ultimately, it is about taking the time to discover what you believe at your core and what you really want to achieve in life, then designing a road map to help you reach all your dreams.
This process guides you through consideration of all the important aspects of life, not just your job or your financial future, and helps you identify all of the many components of a happy, healthy life.
What Science Shows Us
Patrick Hill, an assistant professor of psychology at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada, evaluated data from the Midlife in the United States (MIDUS) study.
They looked at how more than 6,000 study participants answered questions such as, “Some people wander aimlessly through life, but I am not one of them,” and others that aimed to gauge both negative and positive emotions.
The results showed that fourteen years after the survey questions were answered, those study subjects who reported “a greater sense of purpose and direction in life were more likely to outlive their peers.” In fact, people with a sense of purpose had a 15 percent lower risk of death, compared with those who said they were more or less aimless. And it didn’t seem to matter when people found their direction. It could be in their 20s, 50s or 70s.” Here is the the article People Who Feel They Have A Purpose In Life Live Longer
In 1979, Harvard Business School began a study on goal achievement where MBA graduates were asked if they had designed a roadmap for goal achievement by writing down their goals and creating a plan for attaining them.
Just 3% of the graduating class wrote down their financial goals along with a plan to achieve those goals.
13% of the class had written goals but without an action plan to achieve them.
The remaining 84% of the class had set no specific financial goals or plans.
Fast-forward to 1989, the study subjects were contacted and revealed their progress in life.
The 13% of the class which had written goals but not developed a roadmap for achieving them were making twice as much money as the 84% group which had no identifiable goals in mind.
More importantly, the 3% of graduates who wrote down their goals and designed a roadmap were making a staggering 1,000% more money than the 84% group, and 500% more than the 13% segment.
This shows the incredible power of living by design.
When you design your lifestyle, you allow yourself to explore and connect with the many facets of life that bring you joy, meet your needs, and ignite your interests and passions. It is a deliberate and proactive approach to living that places the control firmly in your grasp and allows you to gain everything you want.
Taking Control and Being Proactive
Designing and actively shaping your life is proactive. It means you think ahead, anticipate possible problems, have solutions in mind for when things go wrong, and are in active control of your efforts toward achieving your dreams. It is a take-charge way of approaching existence that allows you to play an active role in how your life unfolds.
Many people choose to play the victim in life. They wait for bad things to happen, then they wonder why there is nothing good in life. Their lives are reactive, always responding to the world around them. And most of these people have very little understanding of what they really want out of life.
Designing your life helps you accept responsibility for yourself and your actions, provides you with a framework for getting to know yourself to determine your beliefs and goals, and gives you the tools you need to succeed in the face of setbacks and failures.
When you shape your existence around your values and dreams, you can live a life of fulfillment and contentment. You can achieve self-actualization and achieve true happiness, as you have the tools to identify what you want as well as the personal strength to achieve them.
A solid life strategy must be based on a foundation of essential elements in order for it to be successful. We’ll next explore these crucial components to help you start your life design journey with the right mindset and commitment.
Do you remember that question when you were little?
What Do You Wanna Be When You Grow-Up?
When I was little, we had a book that said…”When I grow up what will I be? I close my eyes and count to three…1…2…3″
The choices in the book seem silly to me now, a secretary, a stewardess, or a nurse. Those were the only options for young ladies back then.
Every year thousands of kids are asked what they want to be when they grow up. Many don’t know. Even worse, many adults are still struggling to figure out what they want from life. Like many, they fall into the trap of doing what’s expected of them. They end up bored, unsatisfied and make poor decisions based on the life they are living now. They never follow the dreams they had as a kid; instead they wander aimlessly without any goals or direction.
That’s pretty scary.
If you don’t know what you want in life, isn’t it time you figured it out? People who know what they want function better in society, know where they are headed, are happier, and make better decisions in life.
7 Ways to Start Designing Your Lifestyle
1. Be selfish with your time
If you are constantly saying yes to other people for your time and commitments, you can’t figure out what you want to be doing. Put yourself at the top of your list. Ask yourself what you would be doing right now if you had no family, friend or job obligations.
2. No Regrets
Don’t regret things you did or didn’t do in the past, or saying no to others. It’s your life and you should live it the way you want that makes you happy. Constantly regretting things from your past stops you from going forward.
3. Re-examine Your Priorities
Sit down and really think about what you need the most in your life. Is it family and love? The freedom of creative expression? Financial security or serving others? List your priorities. Think about the legacy you want to leave when you exit this world.
4. What Makes You Happy
Figure out what makes you really happy. Is it being around kids or helping the elderly? Maybe it’s traveling or owning a successful business. Determine what the one thing is that makes you the happiest. Then you’ll have a pretty good idea of where you want to be in life.
5. What Makes You UnHappy
Be specific. If you don’t like your office job, figure out what exactly you hate about it. Is it your workload? Or your freeloading co-worker? Or maybe it’s being inside when you’d really rather be out of doors all day long. Can you fix it? Or make changes somehow?
6. Stay positive
It may take time to truly determine what you want to do. You’re likely to have some detours along the way and make some decisions that will affect how you continue. Keep a positive attitude to help you keep going.
7. Question Your Limits
Are some of your thoughts limiting beliefs? Things like “I’m not smart enough to do that” or “artists have to starve before hitting it big” are thoughts that limit you taking action and exploring whether this is something you might be interested in doing.
Not knowing what you want to do or get out of life can be depressing and scary. We all have a purpose but many don’t know what it is yet. Not knowing where you’re going can lead you to make poor choices along the way as well.